Definition of Honoring: 'To show respect'
**********************************************************************************The verse Honoring thy mother and father has impacted my life in way of restraint…meaning that I am careful in what I say or do so I do not dishonor my parents in anyway( I failed this commandment as a child). The story I am about to share is an excellent example of this.
A couple of years ago God called my wife and I into the Messianic Movement (I use that term lightly) I was very excited because I saw this as an opportunity to learn the scriptures at a deeper level...going from milk to meat...anyways I was so excited that I called my dad and told him unfortunately for me he did not share the same excitement...he got rude and very Anti-Semitic...I was crushed and still am.
Just before Christmas I mailed him a copy of my book that the Holy Spirit and I wrote hoping that it wouldgive him some understanding of what it is that my wife and I have been doing and studying...perhaps this book would be the very thing that would bring down the wall that had divided us, unfortunately this would not be the case, if anything the wall got higher and thicker and the comments from him got much nastier so by mutual decision we have parted ways, I believe not for good but for now, as God told me the other day, "This is just the beginning".
I have only know my father for the last 20 yrs and because I am proud to be his son in 1996 I changed my last name to his and I for the longest time I did whatever I could to please him, this included doing my best to obey the commandment, "Honor thy mother and thy father". My dad has always had mean streak to him and usually he will lash out first before thinking his thoughts through. Many times I have to bit my tongue especially in this most recent incident.
Final Thought
I have learned few things through this whole experience:
1. Is that no matter how negative a parent maybe to their child they are still "The Parent" and;
2. There are no guidelines or stipulations when it comes to honoring thy parents and;
3. How a child treats a parent will come on them through their own children.
So the question remains does God really want us to honor our parents especially if they are abusive or come across as being unfair....'Does it really matter?'
Deuteronomy 5:16 (King James Version)
'Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.'
